Betrayed and Angry
Betrayed and Angry
“Anybody can become angry - That is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - That is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. -Aristotle
Have you been betrayed and struggling with anger? As angry as the backseat driver? Are you exhibiting the following?
Sarcasm
Resentment
Aggression
Passive Aggression
Rage
Hatred
Hostility
Your feelings of being out of control with your anger is normal when you have been betrayed by your partner. Lashing out with rage is a normal response when your world has been turned upside down. Anger is a response that is eventually punishing you as rage eventually negatively impacts your health and your relationships.
You can have hope in spite of your anger and its negative consequences. Your angry feelings are signals your body is communicating to tell yourself that you need some attention.
When we gain awareness of our angry emotions which invariably are driven by other emotions of betrayal, frustration, control, exhaustion and fear; we are offered a choice to process and express our anger in a healthy way by paying attention to the full range of our emotions or we can forge ahead with road rage.
In betrayal trauma therapy, I work with you to process your anger to discover insights behind your emotions that fuel your anger, create a road map to help you identify your anger triggers: the who, what, when, where, why, and how of your anger process.
When your triggering event is understood, I begin to work with you to help you understand why you felt and thought this way and then parallel this with other times you felt like this in your life. I provide psychoeducation and support to help you understand the outcome of your angry behaviors and support you in choosing healthy angry behaviors through healthy boundary setting and inviting support.
With this work under your belt, you can gain strength to develop your own strategies effectively to cope with and express your anger in positive and healthy ways toward healing in your recovery journey.
Anger after betrayal is understandable. Remaining stuck in rage is optional. With intentional work, awareness, and support, you can respond rather than react — and move toward restoration instead of continued damage.
If you are struggling to navigate anger after betrayal, you do not have to do this alone. Reach out to KC or the team at Center for Integrative Change for support in learning how to understand your anger, set healthy boundaries, and move toward lasting healing.
Meet KC
About The Author
KC is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist at the Center for Integrative Change. She trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, CBT, MI, Solution Focused Therapy, Mindfulness, Narrative Therapy, and is in training in sex therapy and IFS. She loves working with couples, children, teens, individuals and groups who want to experience the life that they envision for themselves. KC feels rewarded and fulfilled when she facilitates change towards hope, healing, peace, and wholeness in her client’s lives. In her down time, KC enjoys spending time with her family (husband, adult children, grandchildren), gardening, swimming, and traveling.
